I get asked this a lot, ” How can I say Yes to everything? I have too much going on already. I have trouble saying NO.”
If you’ve read I Dare Me, or seen me speak, you know I talk about the rewards of YES!
Yes takes us places we’ve never been before; yes opens up our lives to new possibilities. Yes, to doing one new thing every day for a year, led to a book, a new career, friends, and experiences that changed my life. And I know from talking to so many of you, hearing so many or your personal stories, YES has taken you to amazing places too.
Still, it’s true. You can’t say YES to everything.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot because, after a good 6 years of saying YES as often as possible, I now have to say NO to some things I’d like to do. It’s a good problem actually.
I say Yes to my wonderful job at Temple University. I say Yes to great speaking engagements. I say YES to finishing my Master’s Degree. I say YES to nonprofit work and causes I care about. I say YES to writing and blogging. I say YES to trying to new things as often as possible and spending time with family and friends. All good stuff, right?
This is the life I intended to create from that stuck place I was in 7 years ago. This is where I want to be, where I hope you are or where you will be.
BUT, I recognize, there’s no more room on my plate. To say YES to something else pretty big would mean, something else has to go. So, I’m having to be picky and say NO sometimes.
There is only so much room in a 24 hour day.
BUT, I’m choosing between things I really want to do. I’m not choosing between things I think I should do or have to do.
I guess what I’m trying to say is if you are stuck, if you are not sure how to move forward in your life from that stuck place, then the answer is YES! It’s yes, to every new thing you can try because taking risks large and small is how we grow and how we move toward change. It’s how we get to a place where eventually, we have to choose between all the good things we want to do.
If your day is full of things you said yes to but you don’t like any of them, that’s a problem.
Of course, you have responsibilities, people to care for, work. But there must be room for YES for things you really want to do or try, or you can’t be your best for YOU or the people who depend on you. Something has to give way to YES.
So, yes or no? It depends. It depends on where you are in your life. Generally, nothing new happens when we say no, so if you need NEW, the answer is YES.
If there’s an abundance of new and wonderful things to choose from, THEN we might have to utter the word NO.
I’m learning, even now. It’s not easy. But I know, it’s just “NO for now”, so I can enjoy and have time for the things that make me say YES every day.