Sometimes we work toward changes we want and sometimes change happens to us. Sometimes big change throws our life into a spin but sometimes a small change reminds us, it’s time again to do the new, shake things up, you’ve gotten too complacent.
So here’s what got me thinking about this.
Every Saturday for probably a decade I’ve gone to the same workout class with Betsy. I loved Betsy’s class because every Saturday it was different, never the same and I was just one of her many devotees.
Well, this morning I went to the gym, ready to do my beloved Betsy’s class and was informed. Betsy is gone.
Sorry, the gym desk person said sympathetically. I think she’s going to another gym.
I love Betsy’s class. I trudged up to the treadmill, dejected, disappointed. I got on the treadmill, frustrated, ticked off. Something I like to do, part of my weekly routine, is going to change.
And that’s when I had a little talk with myself.
Yes, me. The Queen of Do the New, the Dare Master recognized I was having a real hissy fit moment because I did not want this one thing to change.
I know you know what I’m talking about.
Your favorite hair stylist moves. The coworker you love changes jobs. The product you depend on is discontinued. The restaurant you like closes.
It’s soooo SMALL compared to cancer, or death or divorce or job loss and yet…and yet it is something we depended on and didn’t want it to change.
Truth? None of us likes change that we didn’t purposely create. But the important thing is what happens next.
You know what I did?
I left the gym. I went home. I grabbed my backpack and walked 3 miles to my hair appointment and called a friend to meet me for lunch afterward. The walk was not my norm. It was beautiful. It felt amazing to be out out out of the gym and walking in bright sunshine and just a little chill in the air.
I know, it’s because of my ongoing journey of first time experiences, I can recover and adapt quickly to the small changes, the annoying changes and take them as signs.
Betsy’s exit to a new gym will force me to rethink my kind of same ‘ole workout thing I’ve fallen into lately.
And I’m thinking, will I replace it with a dance class? Pickleball? The hula hoop lessons I’ve been talking about? (Seriously, I need new hula hoop tricks.)
Keeping “firsts” a healthy part of our lives; trains our brain and helps us bounce and pivot MORE EASILY to the next thing. They make us stronger and more resilient when the big changes happen.
So, thank you, Betsy. I’m bummed but you’ve pushed me to Do the New again. I’m off to find my new Saturday morning adventure.