My daughter Alexa gave me the best Mother’s Day gift this past Sunday.
All day. At home.
Perhaps you have an adult child, so you know. It’s hard sometimes to get moments, much less a day.
A day. Just me and her. No one else.
No distractions. No boyfriend. No husband.
It had been a long time.
I mean there’s been coffee and breakfasts and lunches with just us. But not an all day hang out.
It started with the biggest strongest hug when she walked in the door and some tears. Can’t say why. Just happened. Long talk…uninterrupted by devices.
Then she made me lunch. This beautiful lunch/brunch. Eggs, bacon, guacamole. I watched her pick out ingredients, add a little this and that and then make this beautiful dish.
We decided to answer 36 questions on the way to love from the NY Times. Wow! That was intense. We got through 24.
One of the questions was, “What is your relationship like with your mother?”
Complicated. Wonderful. Complicated. Lots of push/pull.
We went through my closet. I picked through my “too short”, “too tight”, cause it will be just right on her.
We walked the dog. It was cold. She wore my jeans. My sweatshirt. I love that. I don’t know why.
We talked about the future. We talked about the past. Best moments. Worst moments.
What we hope for. Projects we’re working on. We share being creatives. Writers. Creators.
We played Bananagrams because we both love words. I won. Then she won.
“Let’s do this again,” she said 6 hours later. “Just us.”
“Okay. We’ll have to do that. You ditch the boyfriend. I’ll ditch your dad.”
“Maybe we can go somewhere.”
“I’d love that.”
I remembered a week-long “I Dare Me” book tour across the country in 2015 with her. She dared me. That’s how it happened. We were together 24/7. Tears. Arguments. Laughter. More tears. Like I said, it’s complicated. I’d do it again. I’d travel around the world with her.
She’s my only. I love her with all my heart.
One of the questions we had to answer today, “If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be and why aren’t you doing it?
My answer. “Spend more time with my daughter.” Why aren’t I doing it? “Don’t know. I’m going to fix that.”
It was the perfect gift, Honey. Thank you so much! Can’t wait for the next “just us” day.
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