I was thinking about losses and how we deal with them.
I guess it’s because I was watching a humble, quarterback Nick Foles of the Eagles, last weekend give credit to the winning New Orleans Saints, and say how much he loved his teammates. They were not perfect, they didn’t “get it done” but still, they gave it everything they had.
We hear a lot about “winning” in this country, but we don’t talk much about how to lose or the value of it.
Sometimes we pin so much of ourselves on the thing we expect to “win”, the job, promotion, the sale, the argument…. It feels devastating when we “lose”; our ego takes such a huge hit and it feels like we can’t recover.
I’ve certainly been there.
I was up for a job once that I thought was going to be the pinnacle of my career,
Six months later, an opportunity came along I hadn’t even pursued or even considered. This job was actually a much better fit for my skills and talents. It too was life changing and I can’t and don’t want to imagine what would have happened if I had actually gotten the other job I thought I wanted at the time.
It humbled me. It definitely did that. Before the new opportunity came along I did some real soul searching about the meaning of success, what was most important in my life, my values. I was a more mature, evolved person by the time the next opportunity came along…. Perhaps, not unlike a Nick Foles, who almost quit football before coming back to the Eagles to win a super bowl last year and helping to bring a little extra magic to this season too…even with the loss.
You learn from experience to fight like hell for the wins and take the losses in stride as part of the game and life.
There are studies that show we learn much more from losing than winning.
We have to adjust and re-evaluate. Those who are best at taking the hit and getting back up are “gritty”, set new goals and persevere. They Dare On, as I like to say.
There is some dignity in losing with grace, without a tantrum, without blame, and with a head held high. Because no matter how bad the loss, chances are, as Nick Foles did, we’ll get another day to play again.