A friend of mine looked at me the other day and said…
“Alright, I have to call you out on this. YOU are whining! You are complaining! STOP!”
I froze, stunned by my friend’s…well, honesty.
I didn’t say this out loud but I heard my inner voice yelling back “ME? Moi? Miss positivity? Miss daring? I’m whining? You must be mistaken.”
And then, realization, “Oh my gosh…he’s right.”
A little dark cloud had been hanging over me for days and I had not recognized it until my friend, someone who knows me well enough to say so, confronted me.
“What is going on with you?”
Hmmmm. I had to think about it. Truth was, I hadn’t laughed or played, or done anything new or interesting in a couple of weeks. I had been out with the flu and I felt behind on work I had to catch up on, but not the kind of work I normally enjoy; not the kind of challenges I crave.
Budgets, numbers, data, grading, form filling paperwork, stresses and frustration.
Yep, I was officially cranky.
Ever feel like you are just in a funk, uncharacteristic of normal you?
One thing I learned from my year of firsts: working harder and longer doesn’t necessarily make you more productive, definitely NOT more creative and it really can kill your good juju. Seriously! Sometimes, you just have to step away and go play to find your happy mojo again.
I looked at my calendar.
Must fix this.
Something had to give.
- Lunch with my friend, Mary, in a new restaurant? YES!
- Clear a night for a family painting class to learn something new? YES!
- Call a friend who makes me laugh? YES!
- Stop watching the news? (This is a hard one for me but I know it impacts my mood.) YES!
- Do something for someone else? YES!
- Get my yoga team together? YES!
- Get to the gym? YES!
- Write something new? (You are reading it.) YES!
Down days. We all have them, sometimes for good reasons.
But as my friend pointed out, I really didn’t have a good reason. I was just out of sorts, unconsciously letting days slip into the big suck the energy out of your life “to do” list.
We have the power to recognize it and do something about it. It’s a choice. As I like to say, (and I have to remind myself too), we can go down the road to stuck or we can choose to Do the New.
It also helps to have friends who remind you who you are when you are your best self. And… when you’re not.
Soooo much better.