First of all, I’m not talking about skydiving.
No need to risk your life to do something daring and scary.
Just get that out of your head. I skydived when I was just out of college and I’m lucky I got out of that alive.
I’m talking about really stretching our own boundaries beyond what we thought we could do, (without doing something that risks your well being).
Let me give you an example. Once a week I go to a workout class that truly scares me. I know. Crazy right? I love it. I hate it. I have to do it.
The instructor does this wild, almost tribal dance kind of 20-minute cardio workout at the beginning that takes your breath away and starts you sweating. Then you put on ankle weights and she has you moving your body in ways you never thought possible.
My brain and my 62-year-old body say NO a dozen times during class. I have to force myself to say YES, try it, don’t fight it. Just do one move. Now again. One more time.
This class is so intense I have to be completely present to get through it. The moves are sometimes so foreign to me, I have to stop and watch the instructor do it several times before I can make my body move. My brain does not wander anywhere else for an hour. THAT is a MIRACLE. That never happens.
When it’s over, I’m drenched in sweat. I feel like I’ve run a marathon. I feel like superwoman. Bring on the day! Nothing can be harder that this.
Coding research data for my thesis? Yep. No problem.
Work on the dreaded budget and financial reporting? I can do it.
New keynote for 500? Baby, I got this.
But, here’s the other thing that completely scares me about this class. You don’t ever know exactly what challenge is coming next. The instructor always changes it. You can’t prepare for it. You can only push yourself to follow.
So, what are you doing that scares you, that challenges your body or your brain?
Does it intrigue you with surprises, progress, learning?
To tap into our best selves and live the life we want, we need to seek out these dares that scare us a little.
We have to be willing to do things that push us just beyond our normal routines and get us beyond the predictable, (in a healthy safe way). Things that are daring and scary.
Maybe it’s going back to school. Maybe it’s taking on a new challenge at work. Maybe it’s writing that book or learning to do something you’ve always wanted to do like scuba diving or finally learning to swim. And yes, maybe all you need to do is amp up your workout because you know you’ve been mailing that in with some hoo hum thing you don’t have to think about.
It’s got to be something that makes your heart beat just a little faster with anticipation. It scares you but thrills you too.
When you face any fear, studies show you become stronger and more courageous in all the other parts of your life.
You already know this because you’ve experienced this before. You’ve faced fears in the past, but maybe you have gotten comfortable; too comfortable in your life and work and I don’t have to tell you because you know it.
Time to shake it up. Time to find a thing, a challenge, a dare that scares you just a little.
What are you doing right now that is daring and scary for you even if just a little? Join me over on Facebook and let me know!