I was talking to a friend recently dealing with a major medical issue and he told me he is just “waiting for the next shoe to drop.” And so while he is waiting, he is not really living his life (a more daring life) to the fullest and he knows it.
He is afraid to fully commit to a partner who loves him.
He is afraid to commit to a job that could truly fulfill him.
His more daring life is on hold.
Just waiting for the next shoe to drop.
Maybe you relate to this in some way. I know I completely understand.
Each time I was diagnosed with cancer it felt like life just stopped.
Anyone who has dealt with life tragedy or major illness may be more aware than others, how fragile life can be, how temporary. The experience can be paralyzing.
But the truth is, the next shoe can drop for anyone at any time.
That’s a pretty depressing view of life but we can all go there mentally if we choose to, right?
Why enjoy anything if I might be hit by a bus tomorrow?
So, I asked my friend, “If the next shoe dropped tomorrow and it was the worst news possible, how would you feel about the way you lived yesterday, the day before and the day before? This is what guides me whenever I start sliding into a negative “next shoe” moment.”
I went on, “If someone told me tomorrow, “it’s the end of the road for you sister,” I’d be really ticked off with myself and regretful if I had not been going, doing, living fully in every possible way up until that very moment.”
When my time does come, I’m planning on thinking, “Alright. I feel really happy with the way I spent my time and my life. No regrets. Just a lifetime of love, hurt, pain, success, loss, achievements, giving, friendship, passion and a whole lot of first-time experiences. ALL IN! All in every single day that it was possible.” I want to know I had a more daring life each day I lived.
And no waiting. No waiting for the next shoe to drop because that isn’t living. It’s just waiting.
To any of you, my friends, who are dealing with loss, tragedy, frightening situations, pain; I know it’s not easy to recover and move forward.
But it’s worth recovering and moving forward. It’s worth it.
Any day you are breathing and physically not in pain, is a day you can make a choice to squeeze the hell out of your next 24 hours; dream, love, plan, grow, work hard, hug hard or just sit under a tree and look up at the sky at the wonder if it all.
I don’t know if this helped my friend.
I hope so.
I hope it helps you, too.